The moment of the incarnation is the moment of God’s impairment. In becoming born in human form, the Divine becomes self-limited, constrained to a particular time, place and embodied form. Incarnation is, at least in part, God withdrawing into him/herself, not in act of hiding but in an act of humility that enables us to encounter God in a new and more profound way. By God, in some way, becoming less, we are able to see God more fully. It is God disabled, broken, twisted and trapped upon the cross that reveals, as nothing else could the depths of the divine love.
And perhaps we too need to learn to, in some ways, limit ourselves, to allow space for the other. Just may be if I reduce the attention I need and lessen the desires that I want fulfilled, there will be space for the other to receive attention and have their needs met.
In relationships as long as we each assert our point of view, insist on our version of truth and highlight the failings of the other, no reconciliation is possible. Healing comes in the moment of shared vulnerability and brokenness. It is in the recognising of our shared disability, we are enabled to reach out and find the ability to discern a different path.
The mystery which is still waiting to be discovered, and fully understood, is that the world does not need a God of power and might, but a God who is big enough to embrace self-limiting disability and so reveal there is another way.